Challenging the Notion that All Pauses are Good

Andy Crooks writing as Andy C
2 min readMay 9, 2024


Recent blogs have focused on the value of pausing. We have highlighted that pausing creates space to perceive with clarity and think with care. We have suggested that _pauses are always good_.

Several readers have pointed out, that is wrong. I stand corrected.

We can pause and dwell in resentment, or we can pause and use that time to nurture a grudge. Taking a pause and time to think about vengeance makes us dangerous.

Pausing to dwell on a situation can create a false sense of reality and embed false premises more firmly in our hearts. A pause may be a brooding, self-absorbed period of navel-gazing, which never ends well.

I stand corrected; a pause can be good or bad.

The critics have also shared that pausing will always be better if accompanied by prayer.

To pause with prayer is always better. The act of prayer has a transformative power. It works in the pause to change your mentality for the better.

It can become a sacred space for concerns, fears, and hopes, fostering a sense of tranquillity and reassurance amidst uncertainty. Through prayer, I can find solace in the belief that a divine presence is guiding me.

Pausing with prayer creates a sense of gratitude, patience, and acceptance, enabling grace and resilience.

Furthermore, a pause with prayer fosters inner transformation and personal growth. Through prayerful reflection and introspection, I can gain a higher perspective. From that higher view, I find clarity and insight into my circumstances, facilitating positive change and growth.

A pause can be either good or bad. However, when accompanied by prayer, a pause is transformed into an opportunity for spiritual growth, self-discovery, and emotional healing.



Andy Crooks writing as Andy C

For Andy C, not drinking was the first spiritual awakening. He’s been blessed with subsequent spiritual awakenings as the results of the 12 steps.